Tuesday, January 23, 2018

How Sacrificing Who You Are Is Killing Your Success [And What To Do About It]

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If you’re working as an entrepreneur, you’ve likely felt a bit out of place at some point in your life.

The type of people who set out to start new businesses tend to be a little… weird. They pursue new ideas and they don’t follow the crowd.

Guy and Ilan Ferdman of Satori Prime call people like these fringe dwellers. Let’s say that humanity exists inside a circle. Fringe dwellers sit at the edge of the circle, looking into the unknown to see what can be created next.

These Weird, Successful Entrepreneurs Do Their Own Thing

Whatever you want to call them, successful entrepreneurs just don’t let themselves get bothered by what other people think about them. Ryan Moran is a great example; he doesn’t put on a mask, he goes about doing what interests him and what is valuable to him.

To clarify, Guy and Ilan don’t mean “weird” as in kooky behavior. You don’t need to dress like a clown and make silly noises. “Weird” means being unapologetically you.

People like Ryan are unapologetically themselves. They are free of the shackles of “what will other people think of me”. Like Ryan, you shouldn’t let feeling self-conscious hinder you from achieving success.

Once you stop wearing a mask, once you start saying what you really feel, once you start doing things that you want to do, it’ll translate to success for you and your business.

You are probably spending lots of time and energy hiding who you are from the world. You need to stop doing that!

Fight Your Social Programming That Tells You Not To Be You

From the ages of 3-to-7, we are indoctrinated with the values of our parents, our educators, and what we absorb from mass media. It is easy for us to come to a conclusion at that young age about who we are. If you decide you are not a person with value to contribute to the world, it can be very difficult to shake that feeling.

Most messaging we here from in society is “normalizing”, rewarding people who stay in line. But stepping out of that norm can be so immensely rewarding.

Amazing Things Happen When You Let Yourself Be You

Netflix has a new documentary streaming, called Jim And Andy. It’s about Jim Carrey’s experience acting the role of entertainer Andy Kaufman in the film Man On The Moon. Carrey lost himself in the role so much that he felt Kaufman’s spirit tapping him on the shoulders and manifesting through him.

The 1999 biopic flopped, but Carrey was universally recognized as having put on an incredible performance. When Carrey opened himself up to self-expression, he harnessed his creative potential in front of a global audience, who connected with his portrayal.

Like Carrey, people will connect to you when you open yourself up like that, because they know how much courage it takes to step out and be yourself in public.

Now, there will also be people who will reject you, but that’s ok! Not everybody has to like you. The people who respond positively to who you are are the people who really, truly matter.

Pretending To Be Someone You’re Not Will Close You Off To The World

The millennial generation (those born between the early 1980s to the early 2000s) is the most marketed-to generation of all time. Millennials have grown up practically marinating in advertisements.

This gives them a unique talent: they’ve encountered so much hype, so much exaggeration, and so much fake messaging that they can really grasp when someone is being authentic.

With millennials becoming more and more powerful around the world, being transparent and authentic is more crucial than ever to connect with your target market.

3 Steps To Being You

#1 – Check in with yourself. Think about the messages you’ve heard, the opinions you’ve encountered throughout your life. Ask what messages and opinions resonate for you, and where your own values differ from those.

#2 – Notice where you feel like conforming to what the “crowd” is doing. Notice in that moment – that urge to go with the group – that that’s a manifestation of your social programming from when you were a small child. Think about whether you really need to “go along and get along” in that situation.

#3 – Take action consistent with who you are, rather than action consistent with your conformist social programming.


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  • fredschnaubelt


    The typical state of mankind is tyranny, servitude and misery as Milton Friedman reminds us in “Capitalism & Freedom”. The Western world is an exception due to the advent of “Liberalism” in the 18th and early 19th centuries, when Liberalism meant free markets, limited government, and private property with an emphasis on individual rights rather than group rights or the divine rights of kings.

    Classical Liberalism, also dubbed capitalism, the market economy, the free market and free enterprise, where wealth is obtained not by conquest, looting or force, but by production and
    voluntary exchange. It is the only moral economic system ever devised.

    Many people wrongly assume businessmen to be defenders of the free market. In “Can Capitalism Survive?” Professor Ben Rogge, writes that businessmen “are no more committed to the system of economic freedom than anyone else. Not only are they not the greatest beneficiaries of the system — they are not even the primary beneficiaries.” The plain fact: most businessmen prefer that government guarantee their profits, underwrite their losses and limit their competition.

    The basic problem of every complex society is how to coordinate the economic activities of large numbers of people. When decisions number in the billions, it takes the collective wisdom of a market economy, the decisions of all the actors, to bring order out of chaos.

    One example is the free market’s “invisible hand” distributing food to 327 million Americans three times a day through the voluntary cooperation of farmers, distributors, warehousemen, grocers, restaurateurs and consumers, all acting in their “self-interest.”

    It’s impossible for the government to do this, as proven under socialism wherever tried.

    Another example is the computer industry. In 1943 Thomas Watson, chairman of IBM, said: “I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.” In 2016 nearly 300 million computers
    were sold while continuously increasing technology, and making computers affordable to those with successively lower incomes. It’s not luxury goods for the rich and famous that’s the hallmark of free enterprise, but production for the masses. My first computer cost $30,000. My present one $500 which is 64,000 times more powerful.

    Capitalists, entrepreneurs and farmers are instrumental in making free enterprise work and are likened to helmsmen that steer a ship. Each must unconditionally obey the captain’s orders. The
    captain is the consumer. Consumers, through their buying or abstention from buying, decide what should be produced and in what quantity and quality.

    “The capitalist system of production is an economic democracy in which every penny gives a right to vote. Consumers are the sovereign people.” It is the only system that allows for a rational allocation of resources based on what consumers want and are willing to pay for, and not dependent upon the guesswork of bureaucrats. Consumers make poor men rich and rich men poor.

    The role of profits is to determine what consumers want most urgently and at the cheapest possible price. The greater the urgency, the greater the profits. Profits come out of savings and are incentives to minimize waste. Profits allow a CEO on the 110th floor of the former Sears Tower in Chicago to know if a San Diego store is satisfactorily serving Sears customers. A socialist, without profits can’t know whether to line train tunnels with silver or cement, silver being longer lasting.

    The only way to increase the general standard of living is to increase profits and increase the growth of capital faster than the increase in the population, and thereby enable workers to produce more for each hour worked. All that good government can do is minimize constraints on profits and the progressive accumulation of capital by promoting a market economy/freeenterprise/capitalism, i.e., promoting profits, savings and investments through lower taxes. What say you about free enterprise?

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